Surprising source for cute summer dresses.

If you have kids, you probably order half your life off of Amazon (Prime) and get all shoes from Zappos. 2 day delivery, super easy returns, whats not to like. Did you know that they also carry a large selection of clothing? Loved these finds, all under a $100!


Love off the shoulder for going out at night. This dress def needs some heels (wedges, espadrilles smth like that).


This dress is less than $50, it’s a steal. The length keeps it from being overly sweet and cute. Very flattering.


Some maxi dresses are so tight and fitted, this has a fitted bottom with slightly looser top. It also comes in white which would be gorgeous for night.


Easy, breezy. Order size down.

I might have to buy this dress and drag hubs out to a date night somewhere like X20 on the Hudson. Loved the tuna tartare and the views were amazing! As would anyone be in this dress. All you need is a tan. Tan and done. šŸ™‚

4th of July outfit ideas

Hi all! What is everyone up to tomorrow? Are you hosting, visiting friends, doing a clambake on the beach or sailing off to sunset? Give me your gingham and eyelet, your white, red and blue, your white cotton dresses yearning to be free….

Perfect for beach/boat



summer outfit


Wear shorts and flats, you are not going to be comfortable with heels.

Going to a cookout




Credit: zimbio

Again, make sure you are comfortable! Flip flops, cut offs and cute tank or top BUT do add some color, red/white/blue is a great combo. If you wear a dress (and you should) wear something that isnt overly precious, no silk etc. And wear color!

To the country club

shopstyle gingham dress


What not to wear: I am totally fine with Americana-style top, I have a flag tee myself but do not do this look head to toe. Also, even if its a catered event, its still casual. Sequins, high heels, anything super sexy are a NO! (saw several women wearing sequins at a catered event last night). It’s not a cocktail party! Also, stay away from high heels (if you need some height, espadrilles and wedges are perfect) and do wear some color. It is fun occasion so black dresses or black/white/grey combos were little drabby, especially since most women wore colors.


Happy 4th of July!!!!

Veronica Beard – a designer I am currently loving

Hi all! Sorry for the hiatus, lots of things going on and not all of it good. I have officially concluded (at 39) that I am indeed middle aged. Officially. Go ahead and laugh. Do you now find that at a certain stage you are dealing more and more with things that you ever even thought of in your late 20s and 30s? And I mean more that a few grey hairs and wrinkles. See, those are fixable. The rest of it is tougher….

VB brand popped up oh I think 6 or so years ago, 2 sisters collaborating. I thought they were rather boring and pricey at first with lots of flowy balloon sleeves and other oddities. Then I saw this jacket on Instagram and fell in love. Still really pricey though tear…. LOVE the fit and lace detail. How good would this be even with my black leggings at pick up? šŸ™‚


Intermix $695

I also liked this embellished Levi utility jacket, which is a lot more budget friendly at $178 in Bloomingdales but not sure I can pull this look off….


I saw this dress at Veronica Beard’sĀ Instagram feed. Swoon.


Neiman Marcus $495

This dress covers up your oysters and lobster roll dinner with the rouching and the tie in the middle and trust me this color is so flattering, especially if you manage to get some tan as well.

So, tell me, which designers have caught your eye lately? Any could sources for casual summer dresses?



Should you dress your age?

If I had a dollar each time I get asked that, I would, you know, have a LOT of dollars. What does that mean exactly? As we approach, let’s say, 50, will there be a manual of Mature Clothing with long hair and short skirts crossed out and handy Talbots and Chico’s catalogue attached? Btw, not throwing shade at Talbots here, haven’t been in ages (or maybe ever) but they had some great flats and jackets in their latest catalogue that still comes to mrs we bought the house from.

May I present the first lady of France? 64, ladies, 64. Brigitte Macron.


Absolutely stunning.

So, the rules. I don’t think you should cut your hair off when you become a mother. And I don’t think that skirts should show up on Cape Cod vacations. And I always always always say wear things that fit you, show off one body part, if you do smoky eyes, do a nude lip and simple eye with red lip. If you feel like huge pom pom earrings (pom pom anything is so trendy this spring/summer) look silly on you, get a top with little pom trim or beach bag with it. Adjust and modify. Take care of your skin and hair and value quality over quantity. If there is one rule to go buy it’s this: if it looks good on you and fits you, wear it!

I am not even going to throw Christy Brinkley at you, or Diane Sawyer. Here’s my gorgeous friend Vera. I think she is in her late 60s but am not sure anymore! She looks so good.


This will be me. Don’t tell Gary.


Less radical but equally gorgeous options.

What do you think?



Who Do You Think You Are?

One of the toughest aspects of my job is to make a client see her body as it is, accept it and then dress to flatter the body not the ideal of it. We are so used to zeroing in on our faults, imaginary or real (but even the real is exaggerated in our heads) that we cannot see ourselves clearly. And thus we spend years if not decades trying to look better without realizing that we do. I always ask about style idols and I do get Jennifer Aniston and Angelina Jolie a lot. However, its important to realize that your body type dictates the style decisions. You may like Angelina Jolie but you might not look great in similar clothes. It may not be the best you. It’s human to want something different, the grass is always greener on the other side, but its time and energy waisted and ultimately, you’ll be disappointed and make some bad decisions clothes wise. I love J Lo, we’re the same heights but sadly these curves I do not have.

Photo: E!Online

That led me to think: do we think, as we approach our midlife, that our best ass and hair areĀ ahead of us if we really, I mean reaaaaaalllllllyyyyyy work at it or is it all downhill from here? I am of the former thought, delusionally maybe, but I am not sure if I ever will get there. And maybe that’s ok, the worst would be to let go and not care at all, right? But what if your idea of your best self is completely and utterly unattainable? See, one thing I wish I knew in my 20s, hell, in my 30s even (am 39 now, thank you very much) is that I did look good. My hair (well, there were some regrettable moments but moving on) did look amazing and so did my body. But I was forever trying to be more and thus never really stopped to smell the roses. Inherent insecurities of being a woman? Maybe. But as the dust settles on my last year as 30 something, I’ve come to accept myself more than I ever have. I am trying to look the best me I can be. But how do you tell someone that they ought to give up that Angelina Jolie dream because that ain’t gonna happen BUT that their reality, their bodies, their looks are beautiful. Not in a Loreal ad kind of way, not in mom will always love you as you are, but that there really really is something totally awesome about your looks? I have tried brutal honest, even cursing (when one of my clients who is so so so gorgeous I don’t like seeing her as I will always feel bad about myself tells me she doesnt like wearing short dresses because she doesn’t like her legs. Ugh.

Do me a favor if you are nodding along at all, look at photos of yourself even 5 years ago. Now do you not think that you looked good, much better than you thought? Are you not wistful for the body you never appreciated? I am!


So, should we meet randomly, don’t be shocked or, worse, offended, if I tell you I like you arms, calves (just told that to a woman at Costco) or boobs. a) because i mean it and b) its totally objective, c) you should think that too because we all know I am rarely wrong about these things and D) we should complement each other, woman to woman, without any pretext. Because maybe then, just maybe, we let go of all of our preconceived notions of what we should do/be/look like to be beautiful and truly come to realize that hey, I don’t look half bad. Wink.


-haiku aka Mother Theresa of Fashion and Beauty